|By David Morgan, inspired by All One|
(Rough Draft - Last changed 1 day ago.)
Being honest with YOURSELF
What does "Being honest with yourself" mean?
Now people may or may not be honest with other people, but how many people are "honest with themselves"? How many people have even thought about it? What does "being honest with yourself" even mean?
"Being honest with yourself" follows very closely, and may actually be the same as "being true to yourself" (google). I like both sayings, but what comes to mind is a saying by George Carlin, "shoot is sh*t with 2 o's". Doesn't "being true to yourself" really mean "being honest with yourself"? Regardless, using the word "honest" seems like a more direct, easier to remember, and maybe easier to measure word than "true."
A simple example of "being honest with yourself" could be choosing if you are going to eat cake or sweets when you are trying to lose weight and eat healthier foods. If your goal is to live a healthier life, then choosing not to eat the cake is being more honest to yourself.
Who is this page for?
This page is for anyone who wants to think, educate, and attempt to better drive their own "bus" (life). Should everyone try to do this? That's totally up to you. Everybody is different. For me, I have this feeling in my heart that it seems to make sense. Everybody is different, and we all have choices to make. Not thinking about your options is a choice as well, but I invite you to consider reading this page and at least thinking about it. As John Atkinson said "If you don't run your own life, somebody else will."
Why even think about choosing how you live your own life?
Not long ago, someone asked me: "What is the purpose of people on this planet?" (Google) (See also quora.com). When I ask this question to others, by far most say they had never thought about it. Now obviously, it's been a thought by some people throughout human existence, dating way back way before Monty Python's The Meaning of Life (wiki) :).
Dr. Wayne Dyer said something that sums up what I'm trying to say pretty well. He said something close to "While there is nothing wrong with living an ordinary life, I want to live an extraordinary life." It's a personal choice.
When I talk to people about life, most people I ask are not aware of the writings from Bonnie Ware, who counseled thousands of people on their death bed. She found that the number one regret was "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me." When I tell this to those people, I usually then ask "Aren't you glad you know about that now?" Each day we are alive, we have choices.
There are scores of people throughout history that have talked about "being true to yourself". Just one example is a song that stuck with me for many years. It is a song by Peter Gabriel, called "Solsbury Hill." When I recently read the lyrics, I believe that the process of "being honest with yourself" was one of the key points of the song.
Obviously, making changes from what you're comfortable in doing does require effort. But as Mae West said: "I didn’t say it was going to be easy, I said it was going to be worth it." This could be the best job of your life!
How do you do this?
Learn how to decide what you want.
Since everybody is different, that's really an individual answer. So you could create your own list, maybe thinking about some of the following options.
What are some of the things one can consider when trying to be honest with yourself?
What do you want to do with your life? Do you have a 20 year plan? It's been said if you don't run (choose) your life, the world and the people around you will run it for you. Now let's just say you make a 20, or 10 or whatever year plan. Sure, if it's what you want, and you achieve it, that will be great. But the real value in a plan is the journey that you follow (by the choices you make), since each day you point your actions towards your goal is a day you learn and grow towards that goal. How do you write this plan? If you don't know, you are not alone. Very few people that I have talked to grew up in a family that ever read a book on goals. So a good start is to consider buying a book on goals. One book on goals that I liked was Goals, by Brian Tracy (amazon).
Evaluate if you eat what is healthy, exercise, and so forth? Do you take care of your mind, body, spirit?
Take a look at the "man in the mirror". There is a saying if your pointing your finger at someone, there are 3 fingers pointing back at you. And the truth is; I'm not sure how spending time pointing the finger helps you grow or live your life.
If you really appreciate your life, think about how you can make the most of it.
There is a saying, "most people only exist, they are never truly are living." Evaluate what you may want.
Do you react, or are you acting the way you want to?
Learn how to make the changes.
Once you know how and have defined your goals, the rest is doing the work to head in the direction of your goals. A sample list of tools that could help to keep you going in your desired direction include research, coaches, study buddies, and groups. See Life Changing Tools for more tools and how to use them.
In your journey, continue to remember to listen to your heart.
P.S. I have lots more that could be put on this page, so consider checking back again! Thanks!
Do you currently live your dream life? Have you have thought about what that might be? Are you living a life of Authentic Happiness (upenn.edu)? A great gift to yourself may be that you have read this page, and maybe the honesty sits inside you realize that it requires you to have the courage to live a life true to yourself. Each day you are alive, you have choices. Two of the many quotes from Dr. Wayne Dyer that may also help you think about your options are "Don't die with your music still inside", and "Follow your Bliss."
What I invite you to do is to consider this: