Life Changing Tools
Purpose of this page
If making changes in life were super easy, then wouldn't many people be living life differently? The bottom line is that it takes work to make changes in most aspects in life including careers, relationships, purpose in life, or emotions. The purpose of this page is to offer a summary of some of the best "tools" or methods you can use to help you make changes.
Why list "Life Changing Tools"?
There are many reasons that may help you understand why you might want learn more tools, skills or methods for making changes, and which may work better for you:
If you look at nature, one thing you can clearly see is that it constantly changing. Yet some people may be afraid of change. Paraphrasing what John at the YMCA said: "We are creatures of habit in a constantly changing world, and if you think about it, in nature it is those who adapt to changes that end up surviving and flourishing."
So what are some of the top tools?
If you listen to the most successful people in the world, unless they are lucky, (and some can be), they will say it takes work. Now everyone knows it takes work. Nonetheless, how much work does it take? Did you live around people that worked to become professionals, or who worked hard towards something that made them more money down the road? Did they try to learn something in their spare time, or just watch TV for entertainment after work? Working hard and smart can help you make more money, but equally important, more out of life.
Work is also one of the key ingredients for achieving most good things in life. They say it takes work to be happy, but it's worth it! Most of the tools below require effort to use them; an exception might be listening to affirmations while you're falling asleep. Regardless if you are trying to make more money, have better relationships, or trying to be happy, accept the fact that it will take work, and as you work, realize it is heading you in the direction of your goals.
Knowledge + Study
If you desire change, education is a key tool that will help you clearly see how to do things. Education draws on other people's expertise and experiences. There is a saying "Never use people for money, money should be a reward for services rendered." Therefore, from that point, people provide a service to other people. Therefore, how do you make more money than someone else does? There are at least two ways. One is by volume, and one is by being a highly in demand expert in your job.
A simple example for volume is this: giving a speech to one paying person is not that much harder than giving a speech to 100 paying people. Selling a software program that you wrote to millions of people is another example of volume. Of course in both cases, you will need knowledge of how to produce something (such a speech or a software program), along with the knowledge on how to sell yourself or your product.
In terms of being an expert, the less skilled labor generally makes less money. A brain surgeon typically makes more than someone who cooks at McDonalds. The point to remember is that the more skilled you become for a job in very high demand and short in supply of workers, generally the more money you make. If your goal is to make more money, then gain knowledge on how to do that.
Knowledge is also important for other aspects of life. If you want to have better loving relationships, gain knowledge on how to do that. Remember, most everything in life is learned, including how to have successful relationships.
If you refer to the table that compares Ignorance with Knowledge, besides what you have learned, the right side of the table shows what happens once you have studied and have knowledge. Knowledge can bring understanding, faith, well-being, expression and creativity; all of which most often leads to more happiness. Learning life-changing skills can provide new options and confidence that can change "I can't" to "I can", opening up the door to creativity.
The desire to know why and how can be one of the best gifts you can have, because it can drive you to want more knowledge in a particular subject. In addition, that can drive you to become an expert in a subject, or at least to learn better solutions for that subject.
For example, just assuming what someone says as truth limits you to his or her viewpoint, which may or may not be correct, and may or may not be complete. Curiosity will make you want to dig deeper on learning new details on topics to help create a more encompassing education, which will expand your thoughts; changing who you will become. In addition, curiosity often can be fun while it is promoting a desire to learn even more!
Curiosity is also a catalyst for creativity.
There are some who say the best tool (and some will say the only effective tool) for learning or for permanent change is using repetition. How many times have people said your name to you since you were young? We have all heard a song enough to have it stuck in our head. How did you learn to spell, learn a language, it was all through repetition. Therefore, when you're trying to make a change from an old habit to a new habit, repetition is your power tool. Repetition over time, sprinkled in with other factors such as emotion, new methods, and diversity of learning can also help.
I was recently told by physical therapist that many people do not keep their shoulders back. According to the therapist, if you look at someone from the side, their shoulders should typically be behind their ears. She said that over time, many jobs for many people cause people to lean forward, with shoulders resting in front of their ears. Keeping the shoulders relaxed, but behind the ears can help prevent several health issues. In order to make that change, I needed to incorporate repetition. I set up reminders every so often to check to make sure my shoulders were back. It has taking a whole lot of repetition, frequently repeating reminders to keep my shoulders back, for many days, that is finally showing signs of more permanent change; success! Repetition, repetition, repetition.
If you want to change an emotion, or start something new, find ways to incorporate repetition into your plan for changing.
Consistency helps with change. Many dog trainers will say that one key to being a great dog owner is to train your dog with consistency. That of course goes with children as well. There's a saying that "Insanity is doing the same thing twice and expecting different results." Consistency produces consistent results.
New, different, and exciting can produce strong and lasting impacts. That special trip you went on could stay in your memory years later, but what you felt like 10 days ago when you woke up may not. That's based on the law of diminishing returns. An example is to use pictures to reprogramming (change) your subconscious mind. If you put a picture up on the wall, the first day is very affective, but within two weeks or so, you may not even notice it. It's still there and that's good, since your subconscious still sees it, but unless you draw emotion and intention into it, it becomes another picture on the wall. Try this experiment. When you are at home, close eyes and describe everything in your room. Do you remember everything? Now try moving a picture and see what happens. When you move a picture, your mind has to process its new location, and that gives the picture more attention.
Goals are like a compass for life. Not only does it provide direction, but a goal can also act like a magnet that can help pull you in the direction of the goal. The process of setting and following goals is a very powerful tool. Unless you were lucky enough to have parents that either gave you a book on goals, or educated you about how to use goals, you may want to educate yourself on the topic. One book on goals that I liked was Goals, by Brian Tracy (amazon).
Now there is more than one way to use goals. The first way is the most common, and that is to achieve a goal. For example, a simple goal might be to accomplish a task before the end of the day. It may also be to save up money to buy something.
Another way to use it is more like a compass, in that a goal can point you in a direction of a desire. Suppose you want to have a goal of being honest with yourself. By having that goal, even if you don't fully accomplish the goal, the actions you will take in attempting to achieve that goal, like learning more about what you really want to do with your life, or using other tools such as affirmations or meditations, can help you have a better quality of life. For example, if you start to exercise more because you want to hike mountains, you will feel better because you exercise.
Most everything in life is learned, and this includes all negativity. How is negativity taught? It is taught through negative statements, most often repeated to you by people and/or media. It could also be called negative brain washing, or negative hypnosis. Therefore, to learn positive emotions and lessons, you can use positive affirmations, which really are just positive statements. The goal is to replace the untrue negative thoughts stored in our subconscious mind with positive thoughts, through affirmations using tools like repetition and feelings. There are many positive affirmation sites, as seen when you google positive affirmations. It's considered a good practice to say your affirmations first thing when you wake up and right before you go to sleep. The last 5 minutes before you fall asleep at night should be positive affirmations or thoughts about what you want in your life.
Feelings are also key tools for change. In fact, some say it's the key to programming your subconscious mind. Neville Goddard wrote a book on it, called "Feeling Is The Secret" (amazon). Dr. Wayne Dyer talks about Neville's work in his book Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the art of Manifesting (amazon). Think about the first time you ever drove a car, or the first time you were ice-skating, or maybe in a high building. The feeling of fear helped you to learn very quickly what to do or not to do. Have you ever heard of someone lifting a car off a trapped child (psychologytoday.com)? Again, emotions (feelings) can have an amazing impact on us. Fear is typically considered the strongest negative emotion while happiness, gratefulness, joy, hope, interest, serenity, are just some of the positive feelings. See also the List of Top 20 Positive Feelings and Emotions (positivewordsresearch.com) for more.
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This page updated 12/11/18 05:40 PM