Mirrors Mirrors all around, what you See is what you Become
Monkey See, Monkey Do!
Mirror neurons are specialized neurons in specific areas of the brain.
science has been able to measure the activity of those neurons, and they have
found that for some human activities, certain neurons fire when a person performs
They have also found that the same neurons fire
even if that person is simply WATCHING
another person doing the same activity!
Furthermore, the person watching (or hearing sometimes) another person
actually mirrors some of those behaviors, quite possibly without even thinking
about the consequences of the action. You mind mimics other people's behaviors
and those behaviors (can) get programmed into you.
The purpose of this page is to help you realize that these scientific
results can help you be aware of how much people around you can (or did)
influence you in your life. It effects who you become (or became). Science has
actually provided for the first time in history, scientific proof that human interactions with
contribute to how we behave, think, or become. This proof is something
that could only be hypothesized by professionals up until now.
Moving forward, this knowledge can influence us as to how important it is for
you to choose the people you spend your time with (or watch through media). Similarly,
since we are all role
model for others, this knowledge can make us aware of how important it
really is for us to "be a good example" to others.
Mirror neurons were first discovered when measuring the brain activity in
monkeys, and later verified in humans.
Someone yaws, you yawn. Someone taps their foot, others start tapping their
foot. You watch a World Series game, the Olympics, and they all provide you with
great emotional thoughts. You can almost feel how the players feel. Sad movies
make you feel sad. You see someone drinking a bottle of coke, and you may get thirsty,
or crave it! Now these are oversimplified examples, and they were intended to just
give you a
"taste" of what they can influence. The list goes on.
It's also important to be aware that we learn from other role models besides
just people we come in contact with. This includes both real and artificially created role models in media such as TV, internet,
video games, pictures, and audio.
Besides the fact that the actions observed of other people stimulate our
mirror neurons causing us to "do" and "learn" things, I want
to reiterate that:
Oftentimes we mimic or learn these actions
without even thinking about
This means that we can learn good (or bad) behaviors, without thinking about
the fact that they are good or bad! Psychologists would say they bypass the
critical-thought functions of the conscious mind and are programmed in the
subconscious (also known as the unconscious) mind. See also: Subconscious
And it turns out that science measured and compared the brain waves of adults to children up
to age six, and they found that until around six, children's brain operates primarily without the conscious mind, meaning they actually may not even able to distinguish between right and wrong!
They simply store the knowledge and emotions without judgment, and this is what
they are likely to repeat later on! See Are
You Programmed at Birth? (healyourlife.com), a great read for everybody, but
especially for those who have children they love under the age of 7!
Science has also verified that other senses besides just watching a
person, such as sound and smell, can affect our mirror neurons and
If you google: mirror
neurons you will see lots of great articles about them. One thing to note is
that initially, professionals started thinking that mirror neurons may be the
answer to so many questions, and some of those may prove to be incorrect in the
future (see a page in Scientific
American). However, the facts that our mirror neurons exist, that they are effected by outside
influences, and that we may not even be "aware"
that we are being influenced, still remains true.
I remember reading many years ago, "Getting
the Love You Want" (amazon), by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. He says
"You become one parent, and marry the
other." What he means is that many children start taking on (from what they learned) some of the good as well as some of the
not so good traits (Incorrect Lessons) of their parents and other role
models. It baffled me why someone would ever take on any destructive
behavior. The function of neuron mirrors provide at least some of the answer.
Psychiatrists, doctors, and other professionals write that the recently discovered neuron mirrors provides
scientific evidence to a piece of the puzzle that clearly helps to answer the question
make some decisions that are not healthy decisions.
By observing "role
models" such as parents, friends, other people,
and media (such as TV, video games,
or virtual reality),
our mirror neurons and associated processes do affect what
So I invite you to consider the following:
If people live around someone who drinks alcohol or smokes, are
they more likely to drink or smoke?
If people watch negative TV such as news, or interact with negative people,
are they more likely to become negative?
If people listen to people complain, are they more likely to become a
On the flip side of the coin:
If people surround themselves with mirrors who nurture their minds,
bodies, and spirits, are they more likely to have a healthier mind, body and
If people have close friends who are
positive, loving, and happy, are they more likely to become more positive,
happy, and loving?
If people spend time with people who set life goals and take
responsibility for their lives more likely to have richer, fuller lives?
Now realize that both lists could go on, and you may want to consider
creating a list of ones that apply to your life, and adjust your mirrors
accordingly. Also be aware that the mirrors that present stronger feelings or
emotions, and mirrors that are repeatedly acting or saying something; be it
helpful or harmful, will influence you more.
When I was searching for mirror neuron topics, I bumped into this excellent
ted.com talk: "In
our baby's illness, a life lesson." It talks about how mirror neurons
are used in rehab their child, but as the video progresses, they talk about how
they (the parents) realized they were the mirrors for their son. "We were
looking at him as a problem." "Not from a positive perspective."
"We realized that we had to become a better mirror for Mario."
While there are obviously lots of other "pieces of the puzzle",
such as genetics, that potentially influence who we become, I think common sense or intuition can guide us to making better
decisions. Without realizing it sometimes, other people's influence can distort
those truths. There will always be both positive and negative people in our lives.
After learning about the science of mirror neurons, I've started to wonder if
maybe our mirrors (our role
models) effect our lives much more than many people typically think
they do. It might help to answer some the puzzling questions such as "Why
are children who grow up around negative alcoholic families still statistically
more likely to become alcoholics as adults?"
we are aware of the affects mirror neurons and associated
processes have on us; we can make conscious decisions that can improve our lives
and the lives of others. Smile, and those who see us smile are more likely to
smile. When given the
option, I invite you to consider choosing, when you can, a positive, loving, healthy
environment, and mirroring the same for others.
Thank YOU for reading this!
By David Morgan
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