You may not have realized it, or you may need to be
Every day of our lives,
everyone is a role model for us
we are role
models for everyone as well!
Now most people would say parents are the primary role models for their
children, but in the book "The Question Behind the Question" (amazon),
it makes it clear that EVERYONE is a role model for everyone throughout
our lives. It does affirm that parents tend to be the primary role models for
their children, but then it states:
"No matter what our role, someone is watching and emulating our
behavior." Then it says:
"Modeling is the most powerful of all teachers,"
"Who's watching you?"
Did you know that:
Science has now proven that people
actually learn from role models
through processes such as mirror
It's important to realize the impact that science has shown us that it appears that these mirror neurons and the processes that support them
can teach you lessons without you even thinking about it. It can
be almost automatic! One simple example might be that someone yawns, you may
without you really thinking if you're tired or not.
It's also important to be aware that we learn from other role models besides
just people we come in contact with. This includes both real and artificially created role models in media such as TV, internet,
video games, pictures, and audio. Now some of those media role models may be healthy,
and some may not. For example, some experts believe that violent
lifelike video games and
TV may provide role models that some people may mirror; and this could actually
promote violent acts in people
So I invite you to consider the following:
Remember that nobody is perfect, so some people can teach you
Lessons" that can fog
your through role modeling. Be aware (or mindful) of what role models teach
you. Think about, after you interact
with any role models, if what they were modeling was a healthy lesson. If it
wasn't, research and think about the correct lesson instead. Typically it's
the one that feels right in
Try to be careful what you say or do (model) to everyone. Try to be a healthy
role model every day; continue to grow up, and continue to improve your
Suppose you learn to be a boss or leader at a
company, where you are required to direct (or dictate) what people must do. When you are not at work, you must be careful not to
allow those learned behaviors control how you treat others outside of work.
Since some behaviors become almost automatic, you may have to remind
yourself from time to time that "hat" you wear at work, most likely should be different than the "hat" you wear at home or in a friendly gathering.
Pick your "role models" mindfully. Spend more time with
the ones that align with the life you want to live. Consider spending more time with healthy role models, and less
time with less healthy models. For example, if you want to live a
loving, happy, caring, and successful life; spend more time with people who
are loving, happy, caring and successful. In another example, experts say if you're
trying to stop drinking, you should eliminate or at least minimize the time you
spend with those who are drinking. Choose who you spend the majority of your
time with using careful consideration.
Remember to be honest with
yourself about the results of any poor behaviors that you may have
learned from poor role models, and replace those behaviors by working to learn
and change to healthier
behaviors. It's the loving thing to do for both you and those you "model"
If you think about it, everyone actually includes you! If you
"modeled", even to yourself, being more loving, kind, happy, and
considerate every day, wouldn't you then live a better life?
Thank YOU for reading this!
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