Top five regrets of the dying
By reading this page sooner in life, you may realize important changes that
you may want to make in how you live your life, before it is to late!
Some wise wisdom revealed
With age can come wisdom. Wisdom can be a valuable gift that you can gain, and
that others can share. I've also heard that as folks get into their elder years,
some become more open to honest communications. As one elderly person at the
YMCA said to me, "We've got nothing to lose."
The results listed are immensely
powerful, potentially life changing thoughts that could change your life. I'm so
grateful I read this sooner in life. The findings
compiled by Bronnie Ware can be extremely powerful to those who are striving to
live a life that is honest with
Bronnie Ware, is a palliative nurse
(americannursetoday.com) who has counseled thousands of people who
were dying, had a blog called Regrets
Of The Dying (bonnieware.com). She also wrote a book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing
(amazon) about her personal story.
The following is her list of the top 5 regrets from her blog
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the
life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their
life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many
dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their
dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not
made. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have
2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their
children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this
regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients
had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so
much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with
others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who
they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the
bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends
until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many
had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships
slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving
friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their
friends when they are dying.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end
that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits.
The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well
as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to
their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh
properly and have silliness in their life again.
The number 1 regret was not living a life
that is true to your
I invite you to consider this:
Why not consider thinking now about what kind of life is true
to yourself and learning how you can make that happen in your
How would that make you feel? The answer is found if you listen
to your heart.
Always remember to think positive, and positive things will happen.
Thank YOU for reading this!
By David M
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This page updated 12/19/19 08:27 PM