"Love" in Loving Relationships
Kindness, generosity, respect, honesty, loyalty, caring, acceptance, empathy, comfort are just some of the common characteristics of love; and when you live your life following those attributes, you are more likely to experience emotions such as confidence, peace, happiness, joy and gratitude.
When it comes to relationships, there are different kinds of loving relationships; and the word "love" can have different connotations. Wikipedia lists Greek words for love. (See also: The Four Loves). This page attempts to provide both some depth as well as clarity on the different types of love, their attributes, and which attributes generally seem to be common to all types of love.
See also Love, Intimate Relationships and Important Relationship Skills.
"Being in love" or "falling in love"
The differences between "being in love" verses "loving" someone (or having a "loving relationship" with someone) can be confusing.
In an interview with John Bradshaw, (JohnBradshaw.com) he said:
"The problem with love is that there are so many words for it. You have agape, Eros, caritas."
John goes on to say:
The Eros (erotic bond) is a biochemical reaction and attraction. It is a biological love. There is a difference between Infatuation vs. Love
"Love" or a "Loving Relationship"
We may love our spouse, our families, our close friends and so forth, without being "in love" with them. In fact, we could choose to love everyone, but not like some of their behaviors or actions. Loving someone is a choice.
And, if you look back again at Greek words for love (wiki), there are different Greek love words which, among other attributes, provide different "levels of commitment" within a loving relationship.
You can see that there are many attributes in different types of love, yet in all of these 3 types of "loving relationships", we can see some common attributes that might apply to all of them.
In loving relationships, some common attributes may include:
kindness, generosity, respect, honesty, loyalty, caring, acceptance, empathy and comfort.
I invite you to consider asking yourself: