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How to keep your glasses () clean

Your view of life can get "foggy" or "dirty"
and you may not know or realize why!

This page and others on AllOne are here to help anyone come to better awareness of why they may not be as they wish they were. Maybe they want to "improve" themselves to benefit others as well as themselves. They are also here to help you with acceptance of yourself and others. Realizing that we are AllOne  helps to remove us, for example, from the need to judge.
  • Your view of life, what you see and experience, can be symbolized by glasses (). See also We all wear "Glasses"
  • Education provides awareness, and awareness can provide better choices. This is the purpose of this page. See We don't know what we don't know.
  • There are many "Incorrect Lessons" and life events that can cause your glasses (your view of life) to "get dirty" or "foggy". Being aware (mindful) of these can help you be conscious as situations arise. This can help you keep "cleaner glasses", allowing you to better follow any life path that you may have chosen.
  • Note: As a believer in positive thinking, I believe the goal is to be able to identify (but don't dwell on) any negative "roadblocks" or "potholes" that may be hindering your positive direction. For once identified, you then choose the positive actions or direction to take.

Awareness of the following can help to prevent "foggy glasses":

Note: Consider forgiveness for yourself and all others because these and all "negative" personality traits were learned primarily at childhood, but they were all learned. The people that taught you also learned it from someone else. Poor behavior on others is not ok, however one can choose to "unlearn" any trait that they want in their life. Neuroplasticity is the brain's ability to change and adapt due to experience. It continues through adulthood.

"Practice Kindness". I feel "All men are created equal" means people have a responsibility to be nice to one another. Some may say "respect boundaries", some may say "practice kindness".

  • Be mindful that a person or a group of people may not be telling the truth, or that they may be providing false information. Maybe their glasses are foggy?
  • Be mindful that sometimes people project. They may think that other people think the same way that they do, or that they know what other people are thinking. Understanding psychological projection can be helpful when searching for the truth.
  • Be mindful of the potential trap in automatically accepting hearsay as truth.
  • Be mindful of learned helplessness.
  • Be mindful that most skills in life are learned, so be mindful of what you are learning.
  • Be mindful of important relationship skills.
  • Be mindful that some people grew up in a family that was either unavailable, or was taught "incorrect lessons" and may have learned some of the 13 Characteristics of Adult Children.
  • Be mindful that some people who were bullied as a child, may unfortunately grow up with, lets call them "shields used to protect the heart". Note, in the following link I personally do not like the feeling of the picture, but the content is very good: Personality Traits of an Adult Bully (medium.com). These traits are usually learned without even realizing it, so if you were bullied, it's not your fault, however your actions may harm others inherent rights to happiness. Poor behavior on others is not ok.
  • Be mindful of dictator relationships.
  • Be mindful of the power of mirror neurons.
  • Be mindful of the power of role models.
  • Be mindful of the power of making amends, and a healthy way to repair a relationship if you make a mistake and harmed someone else.
  • Be mindful how to heal emotional wounds, and that time does not heal all wounds.
  • Be comfortable about the topic of death, for both you and those you would like support.

Most importantly, these can be some of your best "glass cleaners":

Thank YOU for reading this!

By David Morgan

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This page updated 04/15/24 10:40 AM